A special celebration for your senior loved ones doesn’t have to be elaborate. The big night, including a dinner for two, could be a memorable affair that includes great food, music, decorations and a picture display or scrapbook.
Q. Our parents’ 50th wedding anniversary is coming up, and they’ve asked that we not have a party because their health is not good. However, my siblings and I would love to plan a little something that would help them bring a little romance to the occasion. Any suggestions?
Every couple, no matter what their age, needs a little romance in their lives. It’s wonderful that you and your family haven’t forgotten that.
If you think Mom and Dad are up to a dinner for two, you and your siblings can cater in an elegant meal on the day of their special event. If your budget is tight, get together and cook their favorite foods yourself. Or contact a deli that can prepare dishes that you know they’ll like.
Don’t forget the setting. If you think they’d enjoy it, decorate the room with flowers or balloons and include some pictures or other mementoes from their special day. Add music and candles to complete the mood. If you know a violinist or other musician who could provide “live” dinner music, that would add a special touch as well. Is any of your parent’s wedding party still living nearby? If so, and they’re up to it, invite another couple to join them.
If a dinner won’t work, you could put together a scrapbook or other mementoes from their life together. Collect pictures of special family moments throughout history and assemble them in a book or on a large display board. Present it to them along with cake and coffee that they can enjoy with a few family members or friends.
If you’re living elsewhere and need help putting together your special event, consider enlisting the assistance of family and friends who live close by.
During this SIP time getting together in person may not be an option. Consider having a meal from their favorite restaurant delivered to their home. What about using technology and including others by having a Zoom party honoring them. Wouldn’t it be a treasure for them if someone could make a video compiling their wedding photos and family photos covering their lifespan of their marriage? What a gift that would be!
Julie Ann Soukoulis is the owner of Home Instead Senior care office in Rohnert Park, mother of two and passionate about healthy living at all ages. Having cared for her own two parents, she understands your struggles and aims, through her website, www.homeinstead.com/sonoma to educate and encourage seniors & caregivers. Have a caregiving or aging concern? She’d love to hear from you at 586-1516 anytime.